• Shampiss@sh.itjust.works
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    8 months ago

    I understand that you’re angry. Sure the initial comment was slightly snarky, and yes, a lot of frustration is caused by a large lack of willingness to address men’s issues.

    But I’d just like you to find out what you want to achieve with your commentary.

    If your objective was to raise an argument and change someone’s mind, then starting a conversation with

    Stop pretending you know jack shit

    And

    STFU about your cope bullshit Will never convince anyone

    If you just wanted to express your anger, then I think it’s unjustified to direct it so intensely to the initial comment. The intensity does not match the casual tone of the comment and it’s uncalled for.

    Maybe you just wanted to spend some idle time by commenting on posts. Sure that’s fair, but considering the stress you put into this I’d say that’s probably a net loss for your mood

    That’s not what’s happening here

    Sorry if I misunderstood that. But your tone did not help with my understanding of your point

    The problem is that they brought up men’s rights issues in the most passive aggressive snarky way

    Sure I agree that the initial comment deserves some correction, but You will never get your point across by insulting someone. often to convince someone you should talk to them like they’re your friend. I know the insults might come more naturally than friendship, but respect is what effectively causes change.

    I’m just suggesting you use your energy and patience more efficiently

    I enjoyed this conversation, and hope you did too. Cheers

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      8 months ago

      You bring up good points, and you’re right. I acted irrationally out of anger.
      The insensitivity of the way she presented men’s issues… Tbh, it hurt me and it came out as intense anger that clouded my judgement and muddied the point I was trying to get across.
      In retrospect, I should’ve handled it better and voiced my frustration more clearly and (much) less offensively. Sorry I blew up like that.
      Thank you for your understanding and consideration. You’re quite kind hearted & empathetic, and have restored some of the little faith I have left in humanity. You keep on being you, you’re wonderful.

      • Shampiss@sh.itjust.works
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        8 months ago

        Great to know that you can recognize your imperfections. I’m sure you have a good character. And i’m glad you’re feeling better. Cheers!