I’ve only had sexual experiences in major cities, so just going to meetings and listening to people talk (most of them either 20ish or 50ish, not many folks in their 30s) is a step down for me. Add to that my inability to perform as a top or in any heteronormative role, and that shrinks my dating pool significantly. I know for some people BDSM is just an activity, but as a differently-pleasured queer I find it very difficult to relate to normal women, and there is sometimes a disconnect with the poly/swinger crowd because of the expectation of sex (as they understand it). I would like to talk more about these things.