Shamelessly copied from a post on a Lemmy look alike site :)

  • Bonehead@kbin.social
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    11 months ago

    I get involved later on and say: ‘Christ this is horribly ugly code, how could you ever accept this?’

    That’s a direct example of him acting like the smartest man in the room, and letting you know, straight from the link that was provided. He’s most likely right, but there are ways of stating that diplomatically. That’s not matter-of-fact, that’s just being arrogant. If you can’t see that, and you also find that people consider you arrogant, maybe you should consider talking to a professional about that.

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        11 months ago

        My case in point. That wasn’t an ad hominem, that was genuine advice. You admitted yourself that people find you arrogant. If this is affecting your life, you should consider talking to someone about it. Especially since you just accused me of something, and then immediately did the exact thing you accused me of doing. This isn’t a competition, this is genuine advice. Please consider it.

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          11 months ago

          Yes it was. Trying to sugar coat it doesn’t change that fact. We’re done here.

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            11 months ago

            Not everything is an attack. You can interpret things however you want, but you’re the only one that has to deal with the consequences. I wish you good luck…