(Early 20s bi m)

This isnt a question on finding someone who’s interested, more on how to approach asking for things like sexting or even just discussing sexual topics without it coming across like thats the only thing Im interested in .

How do I ease into that kind of discussion in a way that would let me back off gracefully if I get the sense that the person I’m talking to isnt interested in that at the moment? What bridge topics could I use that are more innocuous than just dropping a “hey what are your opinions about buttfucking?” Into the conversation like a grenade.

I’d like to be able to use a lighter touch so if it seems like somebody isnt interested at the moment I could circle back when they might be more in the mood for that, or at least not ruin the non-sexual things I like about the relationship if it seems like they’re not interested at all.

I’m also fairly vanilla in terms of sexual interests, advice specific to kink would be appreciated since I’m kink-curious but isnt exactly what I’m looking for.

  • UnkTheUnk@midwest.socialEnglish
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    6 days ago

    Its not the status, its the logistics

    My difficulty is that the house I live at is a hoarder house and literally doesnt have the physical space to comfortably exist outside of bedrotting

    Also its out in the middle of nowhere with a 30+ minute drive to anywhere interesting. With me not having a drivers license.

    These are the main things in the way here and they’ll be solved eventually. But they can’t be solved quickly so I’m looking for ways to triage the lonley despiration in the meantime and for ways to make the most of the sparce opportunities I am able to get